Befriend a fear to disrupt its power.

Overcome a Fear

In the mood to overcome a fear today? OK, so let’s say that fearful voice in your head is for you in a way. Just an intriguing idea for the moment, not some big truth for you to necessarily get behind. Consider it potentially useful, and try it.

After all, we each have our version of Aunt-Agnes-who-made-us-nervous, Professor What’s His Name Who Would Have Perfection from freshman year, or a jacked up middle school baseball coach who embodies the voice in our head that, let’s face it, is just a hyper-vigilant part of us these days. So let’s get strategic with it.

Befriend it. How often? Well, actually, again and again.

Try stating the fear you want to overcome in a specific voice with which you know you can lovingly hold your own. Have fun imagining the conversation. Give your fear an image, a name, a long green nose, its own favorite song! Let the conversation play out to a dreaded Worst Case Scenario or two. And if you haven’t held your own in the past, that’s the opportunity this time. After all, it isn’t live TV. Keep working it like Groundhog Day until you come out on top.

No need for news conferences. Do your quiet best.

As a bonus, make sure this encounter takes place in the privacy of your own heart and mind. No need to share it. Part of disrupting a fear’s power is learning through doing that when you counter it with thoughts, feelings, intentions and drives beyond its grip, it backs down. Maybe only for a bit at first, but that’s a game-changer.

And again, no need to broadcast it, which can help to grow it, like letting a genie of dark thoughts out of his lamp to blanket the neighborhood in black clouds. To overcome a fear, flex and feel those new muscles in your own quiet way, exercise them regularly, and watch, listen, and quietly celebrate as they grow fast.

Be kind and FIRM. Time for a little tough self-love!

You can take it. :) The bottom line is, consider that fearful voice a loving, even protective one, speak to it kindly but firmly (“thanks so much for caring and sharing”), and forge ahead. Practice. Practice. Practice that.

Before long you’ll find yourself smiling mid-stride while reminiscing about close encounters that are over now.

Overcome a fear today, overcome a fear tomorrow…

Yep, because new fears do and will crop up like weeds in a healthy garden, and that’s human, and just fine. Because part of the beauty of being human is that, with more and more practice, we know better and better, with less and less drama and expense of vital life force, what to do.

Just proceed, my dears, in loving, committed conversation. Proceed!

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Teresa Young coaches savvy folks ready to accomplish what they want most in healthy new ways. Clients include Boomers seeking fulfillment in the second half of life and GenXers and Millennials looking for meaning from the start. Teresa coaches by phone, in person, and via Skype outside the U.S.

Befriend fear to disrupt its power

Overcome a Fear

So let’s say that fearful voice in your head is for you in a way. Just an intriguing idea for the moment, not some big truth for you to necessarily agree with. Consider it potentially useful, and try it.

After all, don’t you have an Aunt Agnes from childhood, Professor What’s His Name from freshman year, or middle school baseball coach who embodies the voice in your head that, let’s face it, is just a hyper-vigilant part of you these days?

Try stating your fear in a specific voice with which you know you can lovingly hold your own. Let the conversation play out to the dreaded Worst Case Scenarios. And if you haven’t held your own in the past, that’s the opportunity this time. After all, it isn’t live TV. Keep working it like Groundhog Day until you come out on top.

As a bonus, make sure this encounter takes place in the privacy of your own heart and mind. No need to share it. Part of disrupting a fear’s power is learning through doing that when you counter it with thoughts, feelings, intentions and drives beyond its grip, it backs down. Maybe only for a bit at first, but that’s a game-changer.

And again, no need to broadcast it, which can help to grow it, like letting a genie of dark thoughts out of his lamp to blanket the neighborhood in black clouds. Flex those new muscles, exercise them regularly and quietly, and they’ll grow fast.

The bottom line is, consider that fearful voice a loving, even protective one, speak to it kindly but firmly (“thanks so much for caring and sharing”), and forge ahead. Practice. Practice. Practice that.

Before long you’ll find yourself smiling mid-stride while reminiscing about close encounters that are over now.

Until a new fear crops up, since that’s human, and that’s fine. Because part of the beauty of being human is that, with more and more practice, we know better and better, with less and less drama and expense of vital life force, what to do.

Just proceed, in loving, committed conversation. Proceed!

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Left Coast Coach Teresa Young works with clients to accomplish their passion-based goals in healthy, soulful new ways. She coaches by phone, in person, and via Skype outside the U.S.

Dare to swap old beliefs for new possibilities

What do you believe, anyway? About life? About love? About work? About money?

Consciousness of our beliefs—of what drives us and stops us—is a courageous approach to modern life. We can examine our beliefs, reflect on them, and make choices that change our lives.

One central test of any belief is whether it’s fear-based or growth-oriented. Like believing that “love always fades to quiet boredom.” Maybe it’s been our experience so far, or we’ve seen it play out in the lives of others. It could be long-held family knitting-circle talk or good ol’ boy logic. But does it challenge us to keep risking for the delicious relationship we want? Or justify our own lack of heart due to fear of heartache?

And are we really free to choose? Consider that any reason why we aren’t is a belief, rather than some absolute truth. Consider that we live in an amazing era and ARE actually free to consciously choose our beliefs if we’re ready to do this important inner work. Consider that this work will move us forward in new ways. In ways that matter deeply to us.

Now go bravely cast off the hand-me-downs that don’t really suit you, and reach out for the support you need to do so!

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Certified Professional Mindset and Meaning Coach Teresa Young works with clients to accomplish their passion-based goals in healthy, soulful new ways. She coaches by phone, in person, and via Skype outside the U.S.