How to kick off the week you deserve

Ready for your kickin’ week, my dears? Jazzed to begin it?

Oh.

No?

If not, why not? What’s getting in the way? Or is it that your goals are great, and very real, and the actual issue is just…

well…

you? :)

Yes, I’m smiling as I write. Because the truth is that this is, oh, so human.

You aren’t alone!

I love the quote above from committed creative Ralph Waldo Emerson for just that reason. It acknowledges that we humans tend toward thought patterns that get in the way of our own sunshine.

To me that fact warrants lots and lots of self-compassion and self-encouragement as important daily antidotes in our lives.

Regular self-affirmation neeeeeds to be in the mix for each of us.

How about crafting a nurturing mantra that you can jam to in this moment toward your amazing Monday, and in moment after moment in the week ahead?

Here’s mine, crafted during a powerful iPEC experience this past June:

I trust in the flow of life.

It’s custom designed to get at and vanquish the specific negative voices that drive my personal train if I don’t check them.

What could do the trick for you, so you aren’t darkening your own week?

Get super-curious about internal messages that may be raining on your parade, then craft the perfect comeback and game-changer. Have fun with it!

And check out my post on positive mindset to go deeper into the have-fun strategy.

Meanwhile, keep your counterpoint to negative self-talk good-humored, so you’re in an enjoyable internal dialogue throughout the week.

Above all, remember:

Whip out a custom-made mantra when and wherever you really need it. It’s of little value to you just propped up in a pretty frame in your meditation corner waiting for you to have the presence of mind—and time—to stop by.

Rock it on your bathroom mirror, in your pocket, as the screen image on your laptop or smart phone, or both, maybe on the visor of your car. Haha. Whatever it takes!

Deploy it like serious juju in the follow-through of your day.

Like, for real, beautiful people. No excuses.

And keep me posted.

Now go get after your magical sunshiny week!

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Certified Professional Mindset and Meaning Coach Teresa Young works with clients to accomplish their passion-based goals in healthy, soulful new ways. She coaches by phone, in person, and via Skype outside the U.S.

 



 

Affirm human freedom, today and every day

Life is long, my dears. It can get hectic, too. And we Americans can get complacent, taking our freedom and relative wealth of opportunity for granted.

Today, the anniversary of our still-young nation’s Declaration of Independence, is an auspicious day for us to reflect on, first, our gratitude for all that we’ve inherited, for the constant, however imperfect workings of our huge democracy.

Next, whether or not you happen to live in the U.S., I say it’s an auspicious day to affirm our individual and collective human freedom, and to commit or re-commit to make the most of it by following our dreams and expressing our passions.

Note: I don’t mean in the margins of gerbil-wheel bound, stressed out material lives. I mean as the forefront of our lived experiences. As our most authentic endeavors, the kind that make our hearts sing and freedom ring in them.

Lastly, how about re-committing to transcend any personal dependencies or inner roadblocks that get in the way of our freedom to each be the person we aspire to be, the person we are each capable of being, thank you very much?

In that respect, though I started this piece with “life is long”, it’s short in the grand scheme, too, and precious. Don’t wait. Go for it. Let’s rock the intrinsic inner freedom that Viktor Frankl taught us. Let’s make it count.

July 4th is America’s annual Freedom Party. I say let’s celebrate today like freedom matters, then get on with making the most of it!

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Certified Professional Mindset and Meaning Coach Teresa Young works with clients to accomplish their passion-based goals in healthy, soulful new ways. She coaches by phone, in person, and via Skype outside the U.S.

 


 

 

7 essentials of extraordinary self-care for… YOU!

In Part 1 of my jam session on extraordinary self-care, I made my case for its importance for all of us. For YOU. Yes, you!

And not someday, right?

Here, now, today. In the midst of our busy, committed lives.

And not as emergency measures, then back to “the grind” of it all.

I mean self-care as regular, energizing, recalibrating practices, to which we’re as committed as to everything else on our to-do lists.

Really. Breathe deeply here.

And yes, making regular time for these practices will impact what we can accomplish on any given day, in any one week, month, and beyond. Though perhaps not in the ways that we imagine first!

Consider it a grand experiment, and spend a little quality time with my take on the essentials:

  1. Pay close, regular attention to what energizes you and makes you happy, and hang out there. Is it a form of work? Play? A creative process? A belief or value system? Is it healthy? If so, go for it. If it isn’t healthy, it’s probably a substitute for something else. Do the work and go deeper. What makes you happy? What energizes you? Find it. Own it. Let it guide your choices for how you spend your time and energy.
  2. Eat well. I mean really. Fresh, local, light, energizing food and drink make a difference. After all, food is pleasure as much as fuel. Choose your food pleasures as fine, precious bites. And keep in mind that a diet slightly under what many of us—meaning North Americans like me—generally consume is conducive to optimal energy and ultimately to longevity.
  3. Hydrate. Hydrate. Hydrate. As you sip all day, regularly, congratulate yourself for folding this foundational self-care ritual into your life.
  4. Get regular fresh air and exercise, not in a nebulous way, but really. You’re worth it. Make it fun. Make the context your beautiful, energized life, rather than “shoulds” like I should be in shape or [insert number] pounds thinner. Think endorphin boost, and go for it.
  5. Rest. Sleep. Sleep in. Turn down the shade, stop the action, turn off the alarm, turn off your phone. Take some real time to renew your energy and perspective. Radical, right? Try it. Try. It.
  6. Have a regular practice of self-renewal. Is it yoga? Church? Music? Dancing? Reading? Journaling? Meditation? Basketball? Scrapbooking? Gardening? Your Harley Davidson? Campanula, from PixabayQuantum mechanics? Making music? Quality time with your best friend’s baby? Whatever it is, make real time for it, for the part of you that’s fed by it. Revel in it. Then note its impact as you step back into the rest of everything. And repeat regularly.
  7. Really love the people you love. Extravagantly. Make real time for them, envisioning and following through on satisfying ways to be together. Create and experience that juicy reality. You deserve it, and they do, too.I have more thinking to do on this rich subject.

But there’s no rush, right? :)

Meanwhile, what does extraordinary self-care mean to you? Let me know!

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“Left Coast Coach” Teresa Young works with clients to accomplish their passion-based goals in healthy, soulful new ways. She coaches by phone, in person, and via Skype outside the U.S.

 

 


 


Why YOU deserve extraordinary self-care

Courtesy of Pixabay
Courtesy of Pixabay

PART 1  –  MAKIN’ THE CASE

Extraordinary self-care is a mantra of mine. But talk is cheap, right?

And what do I mean, anyway?

I could say extraordinary self-care is a rigorous discipline requiring constant self-examination toward healthy energy investments and habits.

I could say it includes understanding our motivations. 

Otherwise they’re often unconscious and may drive us in unhealthy ways, rather than the other way around, in which we regularly make conscious, healthy choices for energy expenditure and beyond.

Can you relate?

Maybe. But have I inspired you?

Maybe not.

Let’s try this.

WITH HELP FROM AN ELDER

My 79 year-old fitness trainer dad, still at his weight-lifting workout three days a week and still coaching clients, has his own ways of getting their energized buy-in.

There’s the ever ready:

If I’d known I was gonna live this long, I’d have taken even better care of myself.

And one that gets me every time:

Teresa, make no mistake about it. THESE are your “Golden Years.”

More meaningful?

Because it’s like I’ve also said lately in a piece on self-love:

We’ll do well to take extraordinary care of ourselves as the foundation for our good works in the world. Self-love is the fertile ground in which everything we want to be and do can bloom.

MEANWHILE, IN THE REAL WORLD

Instead, many of us drive our bodies around like used cars that we push and rev and run into the ground, rather than lovingly caring for them.

Maybe not even maintaining them.

Not even taking decent fuel seriously.

And who is it who’s doing the driving? The wisest, most aware part of us?

Often not.

But the fact is, here in the 21st century, we know better.

And yet…

THE TRUTH OF THE MATTER, UNTIL NOW

Many of us really feel that extraordinary self-care as a priority is selfish.

Selfish.

Right?

Pause here. Just be with this. Really.

Am I right?

OK. Take a breath. Time for extraordinary change.

Time to break on through to the other side!

And know that I’m working right here, too.

So, next up, PART 2  –  7 Essentials of Extraordinary Self-Care.

Meet you back here, ready to take powerful, self-ful—not selfish—action.

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Certified Professional Mindset and Meaning Coach Teresa Young works with clients to accomplish their passion-based goals in healthy, soulful new ways. She coaches by phone, in person, and via Skype outside the U.S.

 



 


Mothers, appreciate yourselves—and motherhood—today and every day

Me with baby AaronThis photo caught the moments in which I began mothering.

In my heart. In my gut. 

In every particle of my electrified being.

That rosy face wasn’t sunburned. It was on fire with emotion.

New physical and psychic sensations flooded my whole being. I distinctly remember feeling like freaking Mother Earth herself.

No joke. Like, I have got this

I was filled up to running over, and utterly in awe.

It was a whole new universe. Instant ecstasy!

Riches Flow On

The little bundle of joy I was holding is now a fascinating man and phenomenal father. And he has two grown, equally individualist Young brothers.

My mothering continues, of course, just as my dear mom is still mothering me, my brothers, her grandchildren, and now her first great-grandchild.

Beautiful.

Love in Community

Mothers care for each other, too, sharing large and small happinesses and heartbreaks, with permission to “preach to the choir” as needed.

We need each other, and we always will.

We’re mutual support, community, cheerleaders, and co-creators in countless ways.

Other Mothers

I’ve known women and men who have mothered without being “mother”, women and men equally, permanently changed by a sudden or gradual protective realization.

They give selfless gifts of time, nurturance, support, life force, and even more for life-giving purposes.

Whatever it takes. They live it.

You each know who you are, and I’m in awe of the mutual depth of your “yes” in the world.

Celebrating Mothering

So, today, on beautiful Mother’s Day, and every day, here’s to mothering! To everything that mothering requires, teaches, and gifts us all with so extravagantly. Truly beautiful.

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Certified Professional Mindset and Meaning Coach Teresa Young works with clients to accomplish their passion-based goals in healthy, soulful new ways. She coaches by phone, in person, and via Skype outside the U.S.

 




Want progress? Try self-love :)

While browsing Twitter last night, I happened on the hashtag #selflove. The definition that some industrious soul had given it on tagdef.com was interesting, and perhaps helpful, but also limited.

Could have several empowering meanings, but is often used as a politically correct term for solo masturbation.

Intrigued, I looked up self-love using my go-to online dictionary. Check out the definition that almost ruined my evening:

1.  the instinct by which one’s actions are directed to the promotion of one’s own welfare or well-being, especially an excessive regard for one’s own advantage.
2.  conceit; vanity.
3.  narcissism.

Yikes. It depressed me. And then I realized, I just disagree. I’m thinking—and feeling—that this definition needs a 21st Century update. A reboot based on our ever-evolving consciousness.

So what’s a self-loving, self-respecting woman to do?

Answer:  I took matters into my own hands. :)

I went back to tagdef.com, entered #selflove, and added my own definition:

Self-love: a healthy, positive sense of self that creates resulting habits of self-nurturance and self-care, rather than waiting for someone or something outside us to deem us lovable and to care for us.

Example Usage:
“Self-love creates a healthy foundation for empowered choices.”

And yes, I could have honed my entry more before I acted. But so be it. It’s there in virtual reality, and I hope it’s helpful to someone, somewhere, someday.

Because make no mistake about it, my dears, I am declaring that self-love is good and important in our goal-oriented lives, in our lives of service.

I say we’ll do well to take extraordinary care of ourselves as the foundation for our good works in the world. Self-love is the fertile ground in which everything we want to be and do can bloom.

From that healthy foundation, let’s go get ’em. And keep coming back to a place of balance, which self-love also facilitates. We can’t go entirely off the deep end tilting at windmills while we’re also clear that a nutritious meal, a good night’s sleep, and other beautiful, satisfying experiences with self and others are next on our holistic to-do lists.

All things in their own time and place, right? Are you with me?

Good. Because I’ve gotta get some rest!

Next up, continuing with this theme:  Why Extraordinary Self-Care is Right for… YOU! It’s win-win, since we deserve it and can serve others through it.

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Certified Professional Mindset and Meaning Coach Teresa Young works with clients to accomplish their passion-based goals in healthy, soulful new ways. She coaches by phone, in person, and via Skype outside the U.S.