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Befriend a fear to disrupt its power.

In the mood to overcome a fear today? OK, so let’s say that fearful voice in your head is for you in a way. Just an intriguing idea for the moment, not some big truth for you to necessarily get behind. Consider it potentially useful, and try it.

After all, we each have our version of Aunt-Agnes-who-made-us-nervous, Professor What’s His Name Who Would Have Perfection from freshman year, or a jacked up middle school baseball coach who embodies the voice in our head that, let’s face it, is just a hyper-vigilant part of us these days. So let’s get strategic with it.

Befriend it. How often? Well, actually, again and again.

Try stating the fear you want to overcome in a specific voice with which you know you can lovingly hold your own. Have fun imagining the conversation. Give your fear an image, a name, a long green nose, its own favorite song! Let the conversation play out to a dreaded Worst Case Scenario or two. And if you haven’t held your own in the past, that’s the opportunity this time. After all, it isn’t live TV. Keep working it like Groundhog Day until you come out on top.

No need for news conferences. Do your quiet best.

As a bonus, make sure this encounter takes place in the privacy of your own heart and mind. No need to share it. Part of disrupting a fear’s power is learning through doing that when you counter it with thoughts, feelings, intentions and drives beyond its grip, it backs down. Maybe only for a bit at first, but that’s a game-changer.

And again, no need to broadcast it, which can help to grow it, like letting a genie of dark thoughts out of his lamp to blanket the neighborhood in black clouds. To overcome a fear, flex and feel those new muscles in your own quiet way, exercise them regularly, and watch, listen, and quietly celebrate as they grow fast.

Be kind and FIRM. Time for a little tough self-love!

You can take it. :) The bottom line is, consider that fearful voice a loving, even protective one, speak to it kindly but firmly (“thanks so much for caring and sharing”), and forge ahead. Practice. Practice. Practice that.

Before long you’ll find yourself smiling mid-stride while reminiscing about close encounters that are over now.

Overcome a fear today, overcome a fear tomorrow…

Yep, because new fears do and will crop up like weeds in a healthy garden, and that’s human, and just fine. Because part of the beauty of being human is that, with more and more practice, we know better and better, with less and less drama and expense of vital life force, what to do.

Just proceed, my dears, in loving, committed conversation. Proceed!

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Teresa Young coaches savvy folks ready to accomplish what they want most in healthy new ways. Clients include Boomers seeking fulfillment in the second half of life and GenXers and Millennials looking for meaning from the start. Teresa coaches by phone, in person, and via Skype outside the U.S.

Rock 2016 with this sweet mantra!

On a quest to create my own beautiful year from the inside out, I’ve decided on the thought above as my mantra du jour.

How much gets instantly handled—and re-handled—when we focus on the fact that now is what we really have? The magnificent paradox therein is the freedom that this realization creates, freedom to pursue what matters most to us. Freedom to knock off re-hashing the past. To stop expending precious life force on anxieties about the unknowable future. To truly relish all the beauty, truth, and goodness right here in front of us.

Rock on in the now, dear ones, enjoyably, with the present mattering as much as future goals while you align your choices and actions with what you value and want most.

After all, truth be told, here we go now, daily, mindfully, for at least ten minutes, plus additional time whenever and wherever needed in the moment:

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Certified Professional Mindset and Meaning Coach Teresa Young works with clients to accomplish their passion-based goals in healthy, soulful new ways. She coaches by phone, in person, and via Skype outside the U.S.

Befriend fear to disrupt its power

So let’s say that fearful voice in your head is for you in a way. Just an intriguing idea for the moment, not some big truth for you to necessarily agree with. Consider it potentially useful, and try it.

After all, don’t you have an Aunt Agnes from childhood, Professor What’s His Name from freshman year, or middle school baseball coach who embodies the voice in your head that, let’s face it, is just a hyper-vigilant part of you these days?

Try stating your fear in a specific voice with which you know you can lovingly hold your own. Let the conversation play out to the dreaded Worst Case Scenarios. And if you haven’t held your own in the past, that’s the opportunity this time. After all, it isn’t live TV. Keep working it like Groundhog Day until you come out on top.

As a bonus, make sure this encounter takes place in the privacy of your own heart and mind. No need to share it. Part of disrupting a fear’s power is learning through doing that when you counter it with thoughts, feelings, intentions and drives beyond its grip, it backs down. Maybe only for a bit at first, but that’s a game-changer.

And again, no need to broadcast it, which can help to grow it, like letting a genie of dark thoughts out of his lamp to blanket the neighborhood in black clouds. Flex those new muscles, exercise them regularly and quietly, and they’ll grow fast.

The bottom line is, consider that fearful voice a loving, even protective one, speak to it kindly but firmly (“thanks so much for caring and sharing”), and forge ahead. Practice. Practice. Practice that.

Before long you’ll find yourself smiling mid-stride while reminiscing about close encounters that are over now.

Until a new fear crops up, since that’s human, and that’s fine. Because part of the beauty of being human is that, with more and more practice, we know better and better, with less and less drama and expense of vital life force, what to do.

Just proceed, in loving, committed conversation. Proceed!

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Left Coast Coach Teresa Young works with clients to accomplish their passion-based goals in healthy, soulful new ways. She coaches by phone, in person, and via Skype outside the U.S.

Dare to swap old beliefs for new possibilities

What do you believe, anyway? About life? About love? About work? About money?

Consciousness of our beliefs—of what drives us and stops us—is a courageous approach to modern life. We can examine our beliefs, reflect on them, and make choices that change our lives.

One central test of any belief is whether it’s fear-based or growth-oriented. Like believing that “love always fades to quiet boredom.” Maybe it’s been our experience so far, or we’ve seen it play out in the lives of others. It could be long-held family knitting-circle talk or good ol’ boy logic. But does it challenge us to keep risking for the delicious relationship we want? Or justify our own lack of heart due to fear of heartache?

And are we really free to choose? Consider that any reason why we aren’t is a belief, rather than some absolute truth. Consider that we live in an amazing era and ARE actually free to consciously choose our beliefs if we’re ready to do this important inner work. Consider that this work will move us forward in new ways. In ways that matter deeply to us.

Now go bravely cast off the hand-me-downs that don’t really suit you, and reach out for the support you need to do so!

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Certified Professional Mindset and Meaning Coach Teresa Young works with clients to accomplish their passion-based goals in healthy, soulful new ways. She coaches by phone, in person, and via Skype outside the U.S.

8 ways to help keep the peace at your holiday table

Whether you’re the host or a guest at an imminent holiday meal, a few simple guidelines can help you play your part in creating a peaceful experience:

  1. Keep things light, free of any grand expectations that will set you up for disappointment.
  2. Smile. Help out! Be your chill best.
  3. Be genuinely curious about the folks around you. Ask and answer questions in a fun way. BE the fun you’d love to have.
  4. Focus on the young ones in attendance. Really experience them. Make some memories with them.
  5. Be proactive in changing course to steer clear of potential trouble, whether topics, personalities, too much wine, etc.
  6. Be ready to respond to others with compassion. Be a compassionate witness to any messy moments. It’s all SO human.
  7. Refer to no. 1 as needed. :)
  8. Repeat for the duration, giving yourself plenty of imaginary pats on the back along the way for being your personal best.

Armed with these simple strategies, you’re ready, peace warrior. Happy holiday dining to you and yours!

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Certified Professional Mindset and Meaning Coach Teresa Young works with clients to accomplish their passion-based goals in healthy, soulful new ways. She coaches by phone, in person, and via Skype outside the U.S.

Why I’m (kinda) quitting Facebook

The truth is, I’ve been more than a little confused about Facebook.

I’ve been into the idea of sudden new connections with long lost friends. I’ve wanted to be present to far-flung family and current friends of all stripes, too. And I created a professional page a few weeks ago.

Truthfully, though, I’ve always felt constrained in Facebook’s “virtual neighborhood”, even by the option to organize people into types of relationship. It just doesn’t appeal to me. But I’ve been forging ahead since, well, Facebook is what one does.

Right?

I often wonder if other folks can relate.

Because the mix of apples and oranges — old friends, dear friends, new friends, family and former family, former and current colleagues, past, present and potential clients, and now professional page friends — is a lot.

OK. More than a lot. Too much for this busy feeling type to feel good about “managing” in the midst of it all.

And in an aha moment the other day, when yet another friend said he reserves Facebook for close friends and family, well, I knew that’s what I wanted. A simplified cyber-life.

And when I know what to do, my dears, I get to it.

So if you want to connect professionally, find me on my website, on Twitter, and now on LinkedIn as I try out that neighborhood. I’ll be pleased to learn about you and share with you what I’m up to!

Meanwhile, unless we’re blood, or nearly, don’t take it personally as I just express, in my last public post on Facebook, best wishes to you and yours, truly.

Best Beautiful Wishes

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Certified Professional Mindset and Meaning Coach Teresa Young works with clients to accomplish their passion-based goals in healthy, soulful new ways. She coaches by phone, in person, and via Skype outside the U.S.

 

 

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