Left Coast Coach Teresa Young

Live your dream. Wherever you are.

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Birth of a new endeavor: Live Your Dream for Real

Greetings, beautiful people, I’m delighted to introduce this “child of my summertime.” My podcast Live Your Dream for Real is a satisfying new project for me on so many levels.

Access it via iTunes by clicking on the image above. Explore Episode 1 and subscribe, then share it with anyone in your circle who needs just this kind of encouragement right now. (And FYI, Episode 2 is nearly “in the can.”)

Enjoy. And send me your questions!

xo
Teresa

Befriend a fear to disrupt its power.

In the mood to overcome a fear today? OK, so let’s say that fearful voice in your head is for you in a way. Just an intriguing idea for the moment, not some big truth for you to necessarily get behind. Consider it potentially useful, and try it.

After all, we each have our version of Aunt-Agnes-who-made-us-nervous, Professor What’s His Name Who Would Have Perfection from freshman year, or a jacked up middle school baseball coach who embodies the voice in our head that, let’s face it, is just a hyper-vigilant part of us these days. So let’s get strategic with it.

Befriend it. How often? Well, actually, again and again.

Try stating the fear you want to overcome in a specific voice with which you know you can lovingly hold your own. Have fun imagining the conversation. Give your fear an image, a name, a long green nose, its own favorite song! Let the conversation play out to a dreaded Worst Case Scenario or two. And if you haven’t held your own in the past, that’s the opportunity this time. After all, it isn’t live TV. Keep working it like Groundhog Day until you come out on top.

No need for news conferences. Do your quiet best.

As a bonus, make sure this encounter takes place in the privacy of your own heart and mind. No need to share it. Part of disrupting a fear’s power is learning through doing that when you counter it with thoughts, feelings, intentions and drives beyond its grip, it backs down. Maybe only for a bit at first, but that’s a game-changer.

And again, no need to broadcast it, which can help to grow it, like letting a genie of dark thoughts out of his lamp to blanket the neighborhood in black clouds. To overcome a fear, flex and feel those new muscles in your own quiet way, exercise them regularly, and watch, listen, and quietly celebrate as they grow fast.

Be kind and FIRM. Time for a little tough self-love!

You can take it. :) The bottom line is, consider that fearful voice a loving, even protective one, speak to it kindly but firmly (“thanks so much for caring and sharing”), and forge ahead. Practice. Practice. Practice that.

Before long you’ll find yourself smiling mid-stride while reminiscing about close encounters that are over now.

Overcome a fear today, overcome a fear tomorrow…

Yep, because new fears do and will crop up like weeds in a healthy garden, and that’s human, and just fine. Because part of the beauty of being human is that, with more and more practice, we know better and better, with less and less drama and expense of vital life force, what to do.

Just proceed, my dears, in loving, committed conversation. Proceed!

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Teresa Young coaches savvy folks ready to accomplish what they want most in healthy new ways. Clients include Boomers seeking fulfillment in the second half of life and GenXers and Millennials looking for meaning from the start. Teresa coaches by phone, in person, and via Skype outside the U.S.

Everyday Mystery

How can we conceive of and find language for “everyday mystery” these days in ways that transcend all the old constructs that no longer nourish us?

You can’t know what I have to share
unless I speak. I know,
I know, it’s all loaded, the spiritual,
no way to cross that threshold with anyone
who hasn’t opened—or who has closed
with good reason—
that door.
No way to offer such wine.
Or is there? Is a baby’s breath enough,
or a dew-covered tomato rising
out of brambled profusion
in the backyard, near the fig tree
spilling its jewels?

But then those moments come,
like sudden lightning that clears the field
and jolts our hearts, too,
simple, simple exchanges
that meet their mark.
That matter.
What will I see, feel, know,
contribute, and be fed by today if I watch
closely, present to the mystery
in everything? The question
thrills me. And
that matters, too.

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Left Coast Coach Teresa Young‘s clients pursue their passions holistically, including openness to “everyday mystery” and the potential guidance of all the synchronicities therein.

Befriend fear to disrupt its power

So let’s say that fearful voice in your head is for you in a way. Just an intriguing idea for the moment, not some big truth for you to necessarily agree with. Consider it potentially useful, and try it.

After all, don’t you have an Aunt Agnes from childhood, Professor What’s His Name from freshman year, or middle school baseball coach who embodies the voice in your head that, let’s face it, is just a hyper-vigilant part of you these days?

Try stating your fear in a specific voice with which you know you can lovingly hold your own. Let the conversation play out to the dreaded Worst Case Scenarios. And if you haven’t held your own in the past, that’s the opportunity this time. After all, it isn’t live TV. Keep working it like Groundhog Day until you come out on top.

As a bonus, make sure this encounter takes place in the privacy of your own heart and mind. No need to share it. Part of disrupting a fear’s power is learning through doing that when you counter it with thoughts, feelings, intentions and drives beyond its grip, it backs down. Maybe only for a bit at first, but that’s a game-changer.

And again, no need to broadcast it, which can help to grow it, like letting a genie of dark thoughts out of his lamp to blanket the neighborhood in black clouds. Flex those new muscles, exercise them regularly and quietly, and they’ll grow fast.

The bottom line is, consider that fearful voice a loving, even protective one, speak to it kindly but firmly (“thanks so much for caring and sharing”), and forge ahead. Practice. Practice. Practice that.

Before long you’ll find yourself smiling mid-stride while reminiscing about close encounters that are over now.

Until a new fear crops up, since that’s human, and that’s fine. Because part of the beauty of being human is that, with more and more practice, we know better and better, with less and less drama and expense of vital life force, what to do.

Just proceed, in loving, committed conversation. Proceed!

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Left Coast Coach Teresa Young works with clients to accomplish their passion-based goals in healthy, soulful new ways. She coaches by phone, in person, and via Skype outside the U.S.

In times of darkness, stay on your path.

I originally wrote this piece almost a year ago after the Paris attacks as part of my own catharsis. Today more than half of the citizenry of our great country—and countless other global citizens—may be trying to process similar feelings of shock, grief, and fear. 

When we’re confronted with dark events, dark forces, with painful, even horrific experiences, images, or thoughts, it’s very natural, very human, to be blindsided. It’s easy to fixate, to fall out of focus on our goals and dreams. To lose energy and heart. To fall off our paths.

And of course this is particularly injurious in dark moments. We can’t see our way back to where we were, or we lose the vision of our way forward in the ways we were imagining, with our peace of mind, even our belief systems, shattered.

In the thick of such times of trial, consider that the very focus that has been disrupted is, yes, still, like a gift you don’t have to wait for, the way forward. As one great leader famously said during a dark time in human history:

“If you’re going through hell, keep going.” ~ Sir Winston Churchill

It’s comforting to interpret this as general guidance to forge ahead, through the fires of fear, pain, and loss of simple human happiness. Through loss of confidence in the next day or week or season for ourselves or our fellow humans.

But today I feel graced with a more specific spin on this wise counsel. It’s something like stay focused or even double down on what matters most to you. Despite anything or everything. Stay focused, or re-focus, or begin to focus, on your highest priorities. Live your values, what you find most meaningful and beautiful. Stay on your path.

Consider it a discipline. Perhaps the ultimate discipline. Perhaps challenging enough that you can’t fixate on that which would further darken your door, sap your energy, and thus weaken you in body, mind, and spirit.

Another important wisdom-keeper says it this way:

“Do not let the behavior of another destroy your inner peace.” ~ the Dalai Lama

As you survey the weeks or months ahead, be informed. Be as present to world events as you feel is healthy and sustainable for you. Be compassionate, and include self-compassion, and real self-care. And continue working toward your goals. Be part of the light that humanity needs in order to raise its consciousness globally at a pivotal point in our history.

Do your good work. Stay on your path. And reach out for support that you need and deserve. In short, proceed, dear ones. Proceed.

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Process-Oriented Holistic Coach Teresa Young works with clients to accomplish their passion-based goals in healthy new ways, with a particular focus on Boomers and GenXers seeking meaning and soulful satisfaction in the second half of life. She coaches by phone, in person, and via Skype outside the U.S.


 

Get down to the DOING for YOU… today!

You’re no doubt busy. Modern life is action-packed.

But let’s face it, there’s “busy” doing, well, not much.

There’s “busy” jumping through hoops that mean little to you.

There’s “busy” putting out fires because you’re in the habit of emergency mode.

Then there’s the real deal brick-and-trowel stuff, the paint the wall stuff, the busy-ness of working away incrementally at your own dearly-held plans, dreams, and goals.

Building the life that you want.

Right?

It’s a very different scenario that, over time, creates very different lives.

Because remember:

You can’t think and dream your way to that which you want most. As in, someday there’ll (magically) be time. Next week. Next weekend. Next month. Next year.

Gotta act. Move forward. Get real! Get down to the doing.

If there are big differences between your most important goals and this week’s to-do list, take a little time to ask yourself—and the people who are in your corner—what’s really up with that?

And FYI, professional coaching gets you to the core of that question and its answers, interrupts patterns as needed, and supports you in creating new ones that serve your goals.

Once you’re clear on what those big discrepancies are about and how to transcend them, you can go about the busy-ness—the good kind—of creating those new patterns. List, tackle, and check off the stuff that will satisfy you the most.

And don’t let the mythic 21-day approach to forming new habits get you down if it doesn’t work for you. Here’s a timely piece from BrainPickings on why it may take longer to get into your goal-centric groove. Whatever inspires you as an approach, well, do that. Just do it.

Right?

What’s the old adage about how to eat an elephant?

One.

Bite.

At.

A.

Time. (Check!)

And if the most important stuff starts making the list but still doesn’t get done, because, after all, it’s optional, rather than required by somebody or something outside you, well, take a look at that. Time to truly re-prioritize your life. Re-interrupt as needed, day by day, hour by hour, minute by minute, whatever habitually blocks your flow.

Just do it. Right?! :)

Because it’s up to you, my dear, you who want and deserve what you want.

You the designer, the artist, the bricklayer, creating your beautiful life, stroke by stroke. Brick by brick. Bite by bite.

So write it all down. The good stuff that wants to happen. Step by step, on top of your to-do list instead of on the bottom or in the margins.

In BOLD CAPITAL LETTERS if that’s what it takes.

Then get busy. The best kind of busy.

And reach out to get me on your team! It’ll be my pleasure as I act on my own beautiful goals and dreams.

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Left Coast Coach Teresa Young works with clients to accomplish their passion-based goals in healthy, soulful new ways. She coaches by phone, in person, and via Skype outside the U.S.

 




 

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