Left Coast Coach Teresa Young

Live your dream. Wherever you are.

Live Your Dream for Real

I’m delighted to introduce to you this “child of my summertime”, my new podcast.

Access it on iTunes via the image above. Subscribe, then share episode 1 with anyone in your circle who needs just this kind of encouragement right now. :) Episode 2 drops shortly.

Enjoy, and send me your questions!

xo
Teresa

How to Rock the Life You Want (Spoiler: Be YOU)

As a musician who became a coach, I regularly ask my clients this jammin’ question, “so, are you ready to rock life?”

If your answer to my question is yes, then this classic Zappa quote may aid you. It touts in its fun way the fact of the uniqueness of each of us. And those who know about Frank will tell you that he was a man who walked his talk.

As a musician/composer and provocateur during the Vietnam era and beyond, Zappa created his own rock life legacy of compelling, original music and acerbic social commentary. From genre-busting musical styles and types of ensembles, lyrics that took down sacred cows, and a lifestyle that was part of his art, he lived his truth. His own unrepeatable creative life.

Enter… you.

Enter this season of opportunity in your beautiful life.

Are you considering stepping off the beaten path? Marching to the beat of your own drummer?

I’m having fun with cliches here to reinforce the truth that the question of whether and how to live in a way that’s unique you is oh, so human. And yet…

Read more of this scoop at www.liveleadplay.com!

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Teresa Young coaches savvy folks ready to accomplish passion-based goals in healthy new ways. Clients include Boomers seeking fulfillment in the second half of life and GenXers and Millennials looking for meaning from the start. Teresa coaches by phone, in person, and via Skype outside the U.S.

Stop squandering your energy now. Really.

OK, the truth is, I started with the negative to get your attention. Now let’s talk about conserving, containing, and consciously creating what you want most using your precious energy. And I don’t mean with long-lasting light bulbs or by powering down your electronics at night. I mean by making the best use of your most precious commodity: your life force. Right?

Track Your Flow

I say one powerful way to begin is to actually log your energy usage for a day, in four sections:

  1. Important (in service to your goals)
  2. Fun
  3. Unimportant
  4. Counter-Productive

First, in this moment, what do you think you will see? Next, try it out. Check your predictions after 24 hours. Even this simple action will begin to change the game. Read more here at http://liveleadplay.com.

Befriend a fear to disrupt its power.

In the mood to overcome a fear today? OK, so let’s say that fearful voice in your head is for you in a way. Just an intriguing idea for the moment, not some big truth for you to necessarily get behind. Consider it potentially useful, and try it.

After all, we each have our version of Aunt-Agnes-who-made-us-nervous, Professor What’s His Name Who Would Have Perfection from freshman year, or a jacked up middle school baseball coach who embodies the voice in our head that, let’s face it, is just a hyper-vigilant part of us these days. So let’s get strategic with it.

Befriend it. How often? Well, actually, again and again.

Try stating the fear you want to overcome in a specific voice with which you know you can lovingly hold your own. Have fun imagining the conversation. Give your fear an image, a name, a long green nose, its own favorite song! Let the conversation play out to a dreaded Worst Case Scenario or two. And if you haven’t held your own in the past, that’s the opportunity this time. After all, it isn’t live TV. Keep working it like Groundhog Day until you come out on top.

No need for news conferences. Do your quiet best.

As a bonus, make sure this encounter takes place in the privacy of your own heart and mind. No need to share it. Part of disrupting a fear’s power is learning through doing that when you counter it with thoughts, feelings, intentions and drives beyond its grip, it backs down. Maybe only for a bit at first, but that’s a game-changer.

And again, no need to broadcast it, which can help to grow it, like letting a genie of dark thoughts out of his lamp to blanket the neighborhood in black clouds. To overcome a fear, flex and feel those new muscles in your own quiet way, exercise them regularly, and watch, listen, and quietly celebrate as they grow fast.

Be kind and FIRM. Time for a little tough self-love!

You can take it. :) The bottom line is, consider that fearful voice a loving, even protective one, speak to it kindly but firmly (“thanks so much for caring and sharing”), and forge ahead. Practice. Practice. Practice that.

Before long you’ll find yourself smiling mid-stride while reminiscing about close encounters that are over now.

Overcome a fear today, overcome a fear tomorrow…

Yep, because new fears do and will crop up like weeds in a healthy garden, and that’s human, and just fine. Because part of the beauty of being human is that, with more and more practice, we know better and better, with less and less drama and expense of vital life force, what to do.

Just proceed, my dears, in loving, committed conversation. Proceed!

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Teresa Young coaches savvy folks ready to accomplish what they want most in healthy new ways. Clients include Boomers seeking fulfillment in the second half of life and GenXers and Millennials looking for meaning from the start. Teresa coaches by phone, in person, and via Skype outside the U.S.

Everyday Mystery

How can we conceive of and find language for “everyday mystery” these days in ways that transcend all the old constructs that no longer nourish us?

You can’t know what I have to share
unless I speak. I know,
I know, it’s all loaded, the spiritual,
no way to cross that threshold with anyone
who hasn’t opened—or who has closed
with good reason—
that door.
No way to offer such wine.
Or is there? Is a baby’s breath enough,
or a dew-covered tomato rising
out of brambled profusion
in the backyard, near the fig tree
spilling its jewels?

But then those moments come,
like sudden lightning that clears the field
and jolts our hearts, too,
simple, simple exchanges
that meet their mark.
That matter.
What will I see, feel, know,
contribute, and be fed by today if I watch
closely, present to the mystery
in everything? The question
thrills me. And
that matters, too.

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Left Coast Coach Teresa Young‘s clients pursue their passions holistically, including openness to “everyday mystery” and the potential guidance of all the synchronicities therein.

Unwanted advice in your life?

Ah, that staple of living life (if you aren’t on a desert island): unwanted advice. Have you had the experience of a well-meaning person in your life having a very clear opinion about what you should do, or not do, or something else about you, and just totally getting it wrong?

We could call it impromptu guidance instead, or an expression of concern, perhaps even very kindly and constructively shared.

And yet you know it’s off the mark. You know the other party just isn’t getting something essential about you, or your path, whether momentary, this season, or over the long haul.

Been there. Right?

So take this in:

The disconnect is just part of life.

It isn’t about you.

Except when it is. :) More on that in a minute.

Meanwhile, this is a poignant and very common human experience.

We’ve also no doubt been on the other side of it. Consider this whenever you’re giving “unwanted advice.” Yep, you. And me, too. It may be “out of the goodness of our hearts”, but it’s an equation in which 2 + 2 may well not equal 4.

Did the person seek your perspective? If not, you can predict the outcome of that particular outlay of energy because of your own experiences of being on the receiving end. And even if she or he did ask your opinion, your honest reply may end up disappointing you if you then expect any particular outcome from it.

These experiences are often useful, though, despite any understandable stress or tension that comes with them. We can gain new clarity about how we really do feel and where we really stand in the face of the thoughts and opinions of others.

That’s a good thing, right?

And the bottom line?

There is tremendous power in you being authentically you in those moments. In those relationships. In really owning and honoring all that this means: your hopes and dreams, strengths, weaknesses or areas for growth, values, choices, and, yes, responsibilities, including responsibilities to self.

These moments in our lives, fielding unwanted advice or other challenges, when who we really are bumps up against the views and values of others, are actually golden opportunities for committed, even inspiring communication, as we risk being and sharing the real deal, who we are. Deeply. Really. Beautifully.

These are moments worth bringing our best to, in communications in which we truly respect ourselves and the other.

Our differences. Our uniqueness.

The beauty of our connection from the truth of  our individuality. All that.

And no, as you know, these conversations don’t always go well.

Life is like that, too.

Just like our Olympic athletes can’t “get to gold” without consistent, committed engagement in the work at hand, challenging dialogue from a place of individual differences is part of playing the game of life. All the better when it’s with others with whom we share real affection or deep love.

So just like those Olympians do, day after committed day:

Think opportunity.

Think life-changing communications.

Opportunity to deepen a relationship. To hone new skills in honest self-expression. To truly experience and live a life of individual freedom and meaningful connection. These moments can be good. Or great! They may be work, but it’s work worth doing in our beautiful lives.

And earlier I noted that sometimes a “disconnect” experience is about you.

Yes, let’s face this fact:

Sometimes life may be bringing us a message that we really need to hear.

About a momentary or habitual blind spot. A chance to see something in a new way, like an interpretation of events or circumstances that’s holding us back, or an assumption that’s limiting the options we’re considering as next steps on our passion-based path.

Be attuned to these experiences, and be genuinely curious about them. Take time to reflect before responding when possible, or circle back for a re-do later within the context of committed communication.

In bringing our best to our important relationships, 1. a growth mindset, and 2. real curiosity about ourselves provide important counter-balance to those necessary, even thrillingly honest expressions of this is who I really am.

Ultimately, with or without unwanted advice in your life, rock your very own stripes. And enjoy the wild journey!

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Teresa Young coaches savvy folks ready to accomplish passion-based goals in healthy new ways. Clients include Boomers seeking fulfillment in the second half of life and GenXers and Millennials looking for meaning from the start. Teresa coaches by phone, in person, and via Skype outside the U.S.

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